We all want our kids to grow up and be happy adults. Don’t we? As parents, can we give them now the tools to be happy when they are grown up? Absolutely!
In this article, I’ll share two great tips on how to teach our children to be happy.
One – Be happy yourself.
You need to be a model for your kids. This is extremely important. You can’t teach your kids something, you don’t know how to do yourself… Many parents think loving their children means living only for them, putting their needs and desires ahead of their own. They cook for them, clean after them, drive them to wherever they want or need, and basically busy all day serving their kids, without taking time for themselves. This is a bad example for the kids.
First, kids who perceive their mother as a servant, learn to be selfish and tend to feel that the world owes them a living. With this attitude, it will be very hard for them to adapt to the adulthood. Therefore, if you want to give your children a fair chance of a smooth transition to happy adulthood, stop being their servant.
Second, if you usually drop everything to satisfy their needs and wills, but giving up on your own needs and wills, they will learn these behaviors of self-denial and victimization from you.
On the other hand, if you take the time to take care of yourself, and you do things that you enjoy, things that make you happy, your kids will have a great example to follow. When they see you following your dreams and making decisions according to your inner truth, they learn that this is the right thing to do.
So if you want to raise happy kids, first of all, you need to be good to yourself. Find and invest time in your hobbies, fun activities, and dreams. Every week plan in some scheduled personal time (two hours at least), and make sure that you take it.
Show your children you’re doing this, and explain them why: “Mommy also needs to have fun”. This will teach them that you value yourself, and that personal time is important for happiness.
Two – Invest one on one personal time with your kid.
Focused attention has tremendous value for raising happy children. Spend one on one quality time with each one of your kids. It doesn’t need to be a lot of time. It can be even just ten minutes every day. But in these 10 minutes, you should focus all your attention on your child. Look at them, listen to them, be 100% with them. No answering phone calls. No distractions.
Children thrive on loving, focused, personal attention. When we invest an hour or two to be with our child and focus on them without interruptions, we show them how loved and important they are. Make an everyday routine of some quality time with focused attention, even if it’s just for ten minutes. These will be probably the most important ten minutes of the day, for your kid.
This time you will carve out every day for focusing on your child will teach your child self-worth. By spending with them these special moments every day you show them how valuable they are. This shows, in fact, by actions, how much you love your kid, and this is priceless. This makes your child feel secure, and this feeling of security is an essential foundation of happiness.
In our busy world, it’s not easy to make time to take care of ourselves and uninterrupted quality time for you with your kid. But you must make the effort to do this because nothing is more important for your, and your child’s happiness.